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Enhancing relationships: making choices

Possible Learning Activities

  • Present students with a situation where they are required to make a decision in the face of peer pressure. For example, you have been given money to buy milk and bread on the way home from school, but friends suggest that you buy lollies or play spacies instead, or a school friend asks you to store a pencil case in your bag that you know has been stolen.
  • Divide students into two groups. One group writes down the reasons why you should buy the lollies/play spacies/store the pencil case, and the other group writes down the reasons why you should not.
  • One student volunteers to sit between the two groups to role-play the person who has to make the decision. The groups take turns to give their reasons. 
  • When each group has presented all its reasons, the person in the middle says what their decision will be.
  • Ask each volunteer why they made that decision and how easy it was to do so.
  • Discuss effective ways to let others know that you have made your own decision, for example, using “I” statements.
  • Students could brainstorm several situations in which similar conflicts may occur. They each choose two or three and complete a chart. Students share these in small groups.

Suggested Learning Outcomes

Students will:

  • examine the choices, consequences, beliefs, and values that are involved in making challenging decisions (3A4)
  • demonstrate assertiveness when making choices (3C3).


(particularly taha hinengaro and taha wairua)

Identifying, maintaining, and communicating feelings and beliefs in different situations and circumstances.

Attitudes and Values

Developing a positive and responsible attitude towards their own well-being and respecting the rights of others.

Teachers' Notes

  • For the last activity, students will need to draw up a chart with the following headings for each column
    • Issue
    • Possible choices
    • Possible consequences
    • Attitudes and Values Important to Me in making My Decision
    • Decision Made
  • A further consideration for students should be "How will you let others know of your decision? What will you say, and how will you say it?"
  • These activities provide an opportunity for students to practise making "I" statements.